A little bit of....

To communicate. What an easy thing to do! :) We just put the right words and say it aloud. Nothing more... difficult. Nothing more complicated. Nothing more complicating things. There is not only saying, there is also interpreting things. Right words? We can say one thing, the other person hears something completely different... We expect things, we have our own experiences standing behind the words and giving different meaning to them. We react. We feel. We think.
But does it mean we have to pay attention to our words all the time? We wouldn't be ourselves then... This is not the way...
How about observing? Our words have a big impact on others... and this is something we can notice. Many times, but of course, not always.
I do have problems with communicating sometimes. I know, some would say "but you study this" but it is just the fact. We are all only human beings. I am only a human being. I do make mistakes. And sometimes I am focused more on me then on the other person. But I'm trying. Trying to see the possitives, trying to say compliments since I know how much possitive vibration they are bringing with, I wish I could more often say "stop" when I feel angry. But in the same time, to say what I want, to get what I want, to show my emotions :) People say it is possible to combine. And I think it is. And that from time to time we have to make mistakes. To learn. To move on. To get to know each other in also "difficult moments".
Today I was taking part in the workshop "Mediation in the family". Very useful 7 hours. I went out tired like hell (working with people, using your emotions is really absorbing and tiring!) but with this feeling that there is a country where everything is possible. That this country is in every single one of us. There are no problems that cannot be solve. It is just that in that very moment we are not able to see the solution, the other option, we are concentrated on US and OURS. Or maybe to say it better - on the only one solution we have in our mind. It is a solution, the matter is, that there are some more. We can change the situation. There are times we need help to do it, but so many people are doing it themselves, when the first anger disappears,when we stop accusing and start listening. To the partner, and to us, our needs. Of course there are some tricks. But so many people are using them even not knowing they were named and put into theory.
How we communicate is for some more important of what we communicate, and that sometimes the misunderstandings are based on what we want to hear and what we think we heard. What meaning we give to things, and what is important to us, and what we want others to know "because they love us, they should know". They won't unless you tell them. So do it :)
And to end... this is what I have heard:
"Don't fall asleep with the things that you thought are not possible to reach, you might be awaken by the noise of someone who achieved them"